de·fined /dɪˈfaɪn/ [dih-fahyn]

de·fine   /dɪˈfaɪn/ Show Spelled [dih-fahyn]
1.to explain or identify the nature or essential qualities of; describe: to define judicial functions.

2.to fix or lay down definitely; specify distinctly
3.to determine or fix the boundaries or extent of: to define property with stakes.
4.to make clear the outline or form of


you aren't defined but what you have done.
you aren't defined by what you are doing.
you aren't defined by what you will do.

hear me when I say that you don't have identify yourself with choices you've made that you feel make you inadequate. we have never been loved or defined by what we've done, nor will we ever.

"But He said to me, My grace (My favor and loving-kindness and mercy) is enough for you [sufficient against any danger and enables you to bear the trouble manfully]; for My strength and power are made perfect (fulfilled and completed) and show themselves most effective in [your] weakness. Therefore, I will all the more gladly glory in my weaknesses and infirmities, that the strength and power of Christ (the Messiah) may rest (yes, may pitch a tent over and dwell) upon me!" [2 cor 12:9]

you aren't trapped in your choices.
you aren't looked down upon.

we all have scarlett letters, but we don't have to bear them.
we don't have to live as a prisoner to our choices.
we don't have to live as a prisoner to our secrets.

David was called "a man after God's own heart" and yet he was the furthest from perfect. And yet, the promises of the Lord for his life didn't not falter under his choices.

Before his committing murder and adultry:
"Whatever you have in mind, go ahead and do it, for the LORD is with you." (2 Samuel 7:3)

After committing murder and adultry:
"Nathan replied to David, "Whatever you have in mind, do it, for God is with you." (1 Chron 17:2)

Our actions do not determine His. Our actions do not define us. He is sovereign & merciful because that is WHO HE IS.

“What more can I say to you? You know what your servant is really like, Sovereign Lord.  Because of your promise and according to your will, you have done all these great things and have made them known to your servant. [2  Samuel 7:20-21]

David was acknowledging that the Lord knew all he had done,and all he would do.  The promises of the Lord, the dreams He has for us and the love He gives are without reason. Our actions don't determine His.

Take some time to remember the dreams you had as a little kid. Forgive yourself and then sit back as the Ultimate Dreamer awakens those dreams & desires that were once thought to be lost within your heart.

you DO deserve the best!

101 Ways to Get a Man?

I'd like to blame GLEE  for the random times throughout the day that I'd like to break into song. This show makes it socially acceptable to break into song throughout the day, and I almost did yesterday whilst in Barnes & Noble.


Yesterday I took myself on a movie date and saw an estrogen-romance-laughter - filled film and afterwards found myself wandering through the various dating books in B&N. Just as I reached to buy yet another one of "these" type of books, I felt a strong tug in my spirit that said you don't need another book about "Christ-centered" dating.  I think that sometime people get so hungry for knowledge that they go on a binge of self-help-type-books and it seems as if all they are ever doing is buying yet another book on how to live; but here's the thing: at some point, you are going to HAVE to stop reading about your life and start actually living.  So I placed the book back on the shelf, realizing that instead of reading a book on relationships, I need to focus on my relationship with the Lord and my relationship in loving myself.


Ok, let me leave that tangent to get to the point of this....

as I was scanning the books I came across a title that flabbergasted me "101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention". It was when I saw this title that I wanted to break out into the song from SNL "What Up With That?!" .

Is this serious?? At that moment I wished that I could have gotten ahold of every copy of that book, only to bury them all well below the Earth. Have we now as ladies scooped to the level of finding ways to manipulate men?

Seriously, what the heck have we as women become? So much of this generation of women have become manipulators, imposters of the Proverbs 31 woman, imposters of the Heart of David.

You don't need a 100 ways to get a man (or get a woman for that matter) , and what ever you have to do to get a man you will have to do to keep him. We need to become less concerned with how to attract a man and more concerned with who we are and where we stand.

Books like that hurt my heart and make me intercede for the men & women of this generations that much more desperately. I don't want to be a cheap imitation of a woman. I don't want to "get and keep a man", or Gentlemen, as books like "The Game" say, "penetrating the secret society of pick up artists". 

Don't want to be single for the rest of your life?

Then start taking care of yourselves physically. Attraction in inward as much as it is outward, so take pride in working as diligently on the outside as you are on the inside.

Stop binging on dating books or self help books and start examining all of the relationships around you to check for healthiness. Why would the Lord send you another if you aren't handling the ones you have?

Stop being in love with idea of being in love and simply start showing love to those around you.

My heart has been wrecked with all of this for the past few days, so I'm examining myself this week. I want to be a real woman, and I will marry a real man.

"She is clothed with strength and dignity,

and she laughs without fear of the future.

 When she speaks, her words are wise,

and she gives instructions with kindness."

(proverbs 31:25-26)

" I have seen a son of  Jessse of Bethlehem

who knows how to play the harp.

He is a brave man and a warrior.

He speaks well and is a fine-looking man

And the Lord is with him"

(1 samuel 16:18)