Beauty & the Beast

Women aren't super heroes, but you know what? They DO have super powers. 
 Ladies & Gentlemen, let me explain. 
Men are VISUAL creatures; 
so with what we Ladies wear & how we conduct ourselves--we can CONTROL A MAN'S MIND.  


" They tune in visually to the allure of specific physical attributes and respond more immediately to the sexual stimulation of their senses" (soul virgins)


Gentlemen, how does that make you feel? When a woman (or a "girl", in my opinion) walks back scantily clad and you begin to undress her with your thoughts, you feel as if you are merely "admiring the view". But guess what? She actually has control of your mind, you've GIVEN her that control. 


Ladies, let me be frank. (or mary catherine, bahahaha...i had to) As a woman, we like to feel empowered. It can be alluring & intoxicating to know that we have a man's attention, that he is thinking of us. 
 But the truth is this,  if we truly care for & respect a man, we will help him guard his mind.


"So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace." (romans 8:6) 


So here's the deal regarding the men around us,  as women we can either be a road that leads to death or a beacon of life & peace. 


Now let me be honest with you, I know as a woman, it can be affirming to our self esteem to know that a man is attracted to us. And i'm NOT saying that you can't be attractive! (geez la weez! i'm all for looking & feeling phenomenal!)  But we've got to realize that to TRULY care for our brothers around us, is to not do anything that could compromise their minds. 


(fyi: i'm NOT letting guys off the hook as far as guarding their own minds, but i'll get to that soon)


"Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. 
Instead, make up your mind not to put 
any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way." 
(romans 14:13)


My dear sweet Ladies, protect & guards the minds of the brothers around you, because lust is a beast. And once let out of it's "cage", it can be a destroyer of relationships and cross ground that is hard to recover. 


"Then the Babylonians came to her, to the bed of love,
and in their lust they defiled her. After she had been defiled by them, she turned away from them in disgust." (Ez 23:17) 


"Many men take their cues on how to treat you from the clothing (or how little of it) you choose to wear." (soul virgin)


Another version says that she was "polluted". Lust, a pollutant. Sweet Ladies, do you want a man to pollute you? Do you want a man to defile you? A man lusting after you, is not the same thing as a man loving you or being committed to you.  A man after God's own heart is going to fight to keep you safe and to protect you & your beauty. 


Love  within the covenant of marriage is intended to be intimate ("Adam knew Eve") to our cores, not an act based on the lust & attraction of the moment.  I want a man to love me, not defile or pollute me based on his attraction to my outfit. 


Ladies, protect your beauty. Keep the beast in it's cage. Be beautiful, be fabulous and be mindful of the eyes around you. [ you will have all of marriage to dress for your husband :)  ]




And Gentlemen, I understand that you live in a world that is barely dressed, but you are not powerless in this fight to guard your mind. As my Dad says, "you may not be able to stop a bird from flying over your head, but you can keep it from making a nest on our head" 
--And by the way, one of the most honoring things my highschool sweetheart said to me one day was, " please don't wear that top again". You know why? Because my top was causing him to focus on something other than what would be honoring to the Lord, and he was honest & honoring to me. THAT is precious.


Ladies, dress to honor your Future Love.  Dress to keep the beast in its cage. 
Gentlemen, please be more aware of the media around you. Guard your eyes, honor your Future Love.




Lust is a beast, and if you can't control it while you are single, who says you can control it from wandering while you are married?