"twirly skirts" and cleavage.

Last Sunday night I got the opportunity to begin the fabulous "sunday night club" in my apartment; this exclusive club is bursting full of fabulous women, great food and explosive laughter! During this coming semester we will be loosely reading through "Captivating" (by John & Stasi Elderedge) and while drinking a yummy half-caff-starbucks-and-looking-studious-in-barnes&noble, I was preparing for the group discussion tomorrow and was reminded of my days playing dress up. 


When I was but a wee-miniature-mary-catherine, I liked to dress up for my "productions" (ok, so everything I did I expected to be a "production"...) but I don't believe I was alone. I'd venture to say that most girls found delight in high heels, sparkly skirts (that twirled!!!) and powder blue eyeshadow spread too thick.

                    


In thinking through this process, I began to think about how even as women, we still want our "twirly skirt" moments. We haven't grown out of this need, we still want to be object of someone's attention. We still want to feel lovely. 


"she was a little girl in her glory, unashamed in her desire to delight, and be delighted in" (captivating.13)


But now, that twirly-skirt-lovely-need is manifests itself in the need to feel "sexy", "empowered" or as Samantha says " I'm a tri-sexual...I'll try anything once" (sex & the city)


Our "twirly-skirts" are now necklines down to our navel, dresses that almost reveal-a-cheek and the phrase "i can't help it, i'm just big-breasted" in lieu of "look at me, look at me!  watch me twirl! am I lovely?!"




Please don't misunderstand me, there is DEFINITELY a time & a place for sexiness (and in my opinion, LOTS OF IT!!!), but until then, we need to remind ourselves that it's ok to want to be beautiful. It's ok to want to feel sexy. It's ok to want to captivate a man's attention.


Think about this:  if you could look into a magic mirror, and see exactly where you future spouse was and what they were doing, would you still say it was "ok" for a woman to be acting that way with your husband?
How about a woman throwing herself and  her "assets" at him, I don't know about you (maybe I am the strange one?) but I would CUT THAT WOMAN!


Be lovely.
Be beautiful.
Be captivating.


But also guard the future husbands and wives of those that walk around you everyday, you'd want the same courtesy.
                                             (or don't guard them, it's not my decision and it's not my spouse)

"the king is enthralled by your beauty..." 

(psalm 45:11)

the "dead".

i am OH SO tired of hearing about this "lost" or "dead" generation.


let's start with substituting the word dead for the word asleep.


" why all this commotion and wailing?
the child is not dead but asleep"
                     (mark 5:39)


we need to stop proclaiming what the generation is, and start loving them where they are.


this generation is neither dead nor lost, they are asleep.
they have fallen asleep to their true potential,
they just need to be loved without hidden agendas and
reminded of what could be.